Thursday, 22 December 2016

So it's been a while!

So... what exactly is going on?!

Long story short, I've lost the will to make videos .
I have ideas but I just haven't got the motivation to do it.
My laptop is broken again; I have a new rule of no one under my height can touch my laptop, so that hasn't helped!
I love my new camera but the editing is harder, and it takes longer to convert videos so I can upload them.

I've been homeschooling for 2 years and looking after a maniac toddler who's favourite pass time is to climb up the cupboard using each shelf as a foothold!
Connor has now decided that he's like to go back to school and has had his first two induction days and is getting on really well! So once the maniac goes to nursery I should have a lot more free time.
I didnt and don't plan on "leaving" youtube , but in a sense I have...

I'm hoping my laptop will be fixed by the new year and I think I'm going to start making videos again. However I'm not sure they'll be the same. Things have changed for me quite a lot in my life and I think the content of my videos will probably change a bit, more makeup, reviews, blogs and lifestyle.

I'm very much into instagram recently so if you want to stay up to date, follow me on instagram, /gothmummi of course.

Love love and be good to each other. X

Friday, 22 August 2014

so its been like FOREVER right????

So. It's been awhile. Well, let's be honest, it's been 9 months. 

So much happened it really did. Cutting a long horrid story short, my partner left me when I was 15 weeks pregnant. Yeah. I had to contend with that while pregnant. I had to arrange bills into my name, finances etc. I couldn't pretend to be happy, when I was so heartbroken. I honestly had the intention of making a video, and felt so guilty but I just couldn't bring myself to talk about anything.
My pregnancy wasn't easy obviously, but not as awful as anticipated! I had loads of scans and checks to make sure babe was growing well. I couldn't of done it without Charlotte, my best friend. She was there for me every single time I needed her, getting buses to meet me at the hospital to meet me from the taxi and push me huge pregnant hippopotamus body around. She was always o  the end of the phone and listened to me say the same stuff over and over again. I don't think I had a single positive word to say throughout my entire pregnancy and she never once told me to "cheer up" or "get over it'"
I couldn't of done it without her and she was there to witness my beautiful baby entering the world. I love her like a sister and can never repay her for everything she did for me.

I had the best Labour and birth out of all 4 of my babies and gave birth to Jack-Thomas by induced labour 2 weeks early, on the 30th of April at 8.30pm. He weighed 6lbs 4ozs. He went into special care baby unit (SCUBU) when he was 16 1/2 hours old and stayed til he was 13 days old. He had jaundice and low blood sugar and had to have a feeding tube. The worst part was when I had to leave after 5 days, and go home without my baby. Also on that day I found out a girl I knew from my old village had died of cancer, aged 22.
When I got to bring Jack home, it was pretty hectic. He was extremely clingy and didn't like being put down all all!!

Stuart and I got back together after a lot of talking and honesty. We still aren't living together but things are ok.
Jack is getting on really well, he's the most smiley, happy little lad, LOVES his food!! He has a problem with his eye but hopefully it's something easily fixed. 

This is a truly watered down, short hand version of events, I really feel awful f or just vanishing without a trace. My camera cable has ceased to be, so will attempt to film off my 2nd biggest boys ipad! I am busy atm, it's been the school holidays and its the Boys baptism next week so I've had much to do, but they're back at school the beginning of September, so I'll have more time.
Be good to each other x

Friday, 17 May 2013

Ted Baker Star Quality Vanity Case Review

So my Auntie bought me the Ted Baker Star Quality Vanity Case for my birthday, ( which is actually in July, but was given early as I may not see her ) and I LOVE it! Absolutely ADORE it!
                                     How pretty is this vanity case?! it has a jewel!

It has Everything a girl could possibly need to feel beautiful! the case it a decent size and very deep, and the best bit...... it has Products inside!


                                    All the beautiful things!    

                     The vanity case is actually so deep, everything can stand up inside it, and the lid still closes!

When I say it has Everything a girl could need, I really do mean EVERYTHING! Here's what you get inside this beautiful gift set:


                    Gorgeous smelling Bath foam and body wash in matching scents to make you smell like the princess you are.


                  Body scrub to slough off those pesky dry and flaky patches and Body souffle to keep dry skin at bay.


                       Body lotion and hand lotion to soften and smooth.

From the minute to step in the bath to the moment you're clean and dry, this gift set has you covered! All the products are matching in scent, so there's no need to worry about a clash of smells. The scent is gorgeous, I can't describe it other than its a grown up, subtle and luxurious smell that really does make you smell and feel so fresh and clean! 
The whole set usually retails at £45, but I've found it on Ebay  for as little as £25 including postage!
I really think its worth the money, its a beautiful set, chock full of gorgeous full sized products, and the case is fantastic, reusable and useful and absolutely stunning!


I'm very grateful that my wonderful Auntie got this for me as a gift, and i really recommend it to all my lovelies and gentlefish, as a gift for birthdays, Eid, Christmas ( never too early to prepare and stock up after all!) or as a treat for yourself! Why not? You deserve it :)

I hope you found this review useful,  click  Here to go to Ebay listings, or simply Google to search in your country :)
I really can't rave enough about this gift set, so I'm going to be doing a video review too! Check out my youtube channel to see when the review is up, and in the mean time, feel free to watch my other videos and maybe subscribe too if you feel so inclined  :)
( i will edit/post a link to the video once its live)


Hope everyone is well, Be Good to Each other.

Saturday, 4 May 2013

Lancome hypnose Drama Mascara

I have used many mascaras. hundreds probably. I'm picky. I've been blessed with naturally long, curled lashes, although they are very pale. I never curl them or wear false lashes, although there are still some non believers out there!
I don't know what tempted me to a high end mascara, but whatever it was, I'm thankful for it!


Lancome Hypnose Drama is my all time favourite mascara. In my opinion, it does exactly as it claims. I will often use two mascaras together, with this there is no need.

 The brush is curved, so you have two sides to use. Using the flat side of the brush first, you wiggle it up the length of your lashes to give them volume and body. Turn over and use the curved side to give great structure and separation of each lash. two coats is all you need!



i absolutely ADORE this mascara BUT.....

its £22.
For me, this is a lot to spend on one mascara. But is it worth it?
i really think it is. from the first time I used to to the last, it really finishes off my make up wonderfully. My lashes are the blackest they've ever been from any mascara I've ever used. it does last too, as you only need a couple of coats ( i usually use four.)
                                         ( very bad photo alert may be needed here...:)

this was 2 coats, done very quickly (its 11.30pm) and you can see how pale and almost invisible they are naturally.

I'm really pleased i bought this again, its as good as i remember and I definitely won't go so long with my favourite product ever again!
it should be available in all good beauty supply stores, but Google is your friend, so check out stockists near you!

LOVE LOVE.
x

Friday, 19 April 2013

Racial profiling and the Boston bombing

When I heard about the Boston bombs, I was confused. As is our modern time, I first heard about it on facebook. i looked to Dr. Google for answers.

I found them.

I found them and i cried. i cried real tears of pain, sorrow and loss. I saw the video where people were enjoying a day out, in the sun with their families, maybe some sandwiches to snack on. Then i saw the bomb go off, i saw the people scream, i saw women running, grabbing the hands of their children, I saw men breaking down barriers, flags falling to the ground, to reach the injured. i saw people with injuries so severe that i was certain they werent going to live. it was horrific and heartbreaking

. I WASN'T THERE.

For the people who witness it all up close, where they have physical injuries or not, they will be haunted by the screams of their brothers and sisters for a long time.
I donated $10, it was all i could afford. but i prayed. I prayed for the witnesses, the injured, the amputees, for the families of the 3 people killed, especially the 8 year old little boy, Martin Richards, but i also prayed that the bombers were not Muslim.

why did i do that? why does it matter what religion they are?!

Because the two evil brothers who did this, have just undone 11 years. in the 11 years since 9/11, Muslims have come under attack for every wrong in the world. if they bombers are Muslim, it will open up an old wound. People will say "well! Of course! Islam is a violent religion! they wouldn't be Christian would they?"

The bombers are Muslim. My prayers were not answered. Fox news will have a field day. Those evil, twisted child murdering bastards have just made life harder for millions of people. They have destroyed the lives of the victims, and made victims of all those that hail 'Allahu Akhbar.'

As i type, Boston is in lock down. one of the brothers, Tamerlan Tsarnaey, is dead after a shootout where he killed a policeman. He has a wife and three year old child, who's lives he has also destroyed.
The younger brother 
 Dzhokar A. Tsarnaev, is still missing. I predict he will be shot dead. I can't imagine he is going to surrender and go quietly. Maybe this is a blessing. Maybe then the victims can heal.

I've cried my tears, i've sobbed my heart out imagining that it was my children who died.
I've donated what money i can, But my prayers continue.

I just pray for my Muslims brothers and sisters, that the world will see, it was 2 people who set off this bomb. not millions.

Salaam Alaikum.
to donate to the Boston one fund

Thursday, 6 December 2012

Innocence of Muslim- A Gothmummi opinion

If someone had of said to me a badly produced, low budget badly acted 13 minute trailer would cause a world wide up roar, protests, murders and death sentences, I would of said 'only on the internet.'

I watched it, I had to, I had to see what the fuss was about. I was disgusted and could see why people would be deeply offended. But I still didn't understand how something so crap could cause so much trouble! But I am not Muslim, and if it was Jesus of Muhammed pbuh instead, I would of felt the same. But i think Muslims honour their Prophets more than any other religion, and the idea of someone disrespecting such a prominent figure in Islam, is similar to someone disrespecting their own mother.
The film is basically a poorly written, poorly produced steaming pile, designed to cause offence. I think the idiot responsible was hoping  for something like this, instant fame for little work. 

I feel the real victims of this 'film' are the actors and actresses who were unaware of the intention of the film. The actress Lily Dionne has spoken out repeatedly about her horror on discovering the true intent of the production. She is quoted saying she is 'sick and disgusted' and feels 'betrayed' by the films producer. In an interview with CNN, Miss Dionne says she answered an ad on craiglist, for a film about a desert worrior. The main character was called George and it appeared to have no religious or political basis. 
Watching the trailer the first time, I did notice when the actors said Mohammed, their lips said 'George' i have poor hearing so some lip reading abilities and i found that seriously strange, to the point I watched it back twice. Now we know why, the actors had been tricked, and voice overs were used to change the name, the whole plot of the film was a total lie.
The producer went into hiding, leaving the actors, actresses and crew to bear the brunt of the media frenzy. After the protests, violence and deaths at the hand of this film, I think its safe to bet they were fearing for their lives, I know I would of been.
On the other side of the coin, the response to the film shocked and disgusted me as much, if not more, than the film. People completely not involved with this film were killed. The U.S ambassador Christopher Stevens and three other US embassy staff were killed. They had nothing whatsoever to do with this film, in any context. The horrific display of violence bothered me on a personal level.
I spend a lot of my time defending Muslims and Islam. Islam has been a scapegoat and massively misunderstood since the 9/11 tragedy. I'm honestly gobsmacked by come of the comments I see, the things people believe. And i defend. I stand up, I tell the truth as i understand it. Then people take to the streets, lighting fires, blowing things up, fighting, chanting hate speech and it just undoes all the work the average Muslim has done to prove that not all Muslims are terrorists in the same way all Irish people are not real IRA members.

Peaceful protests, petitions, blogs, videos, LOVE, that's the way to show the world 'we are offended by this, here are my reasons why, please support us in getting this thing removed. Imagine it was Jesus depicted in such a manner, by a Muslim producer. please, stand with us.'

In conclusion, I was disgusted by the whole caper. The video AND the reaction to it. I just thank God for the Muslim leaders and public figures condemning the actions of a few. Sadly, the way of the world now, the loudest voices are often negative, the positive speak only in whispers. the negative screams are the ones that are heard, the positive whispers are brushed aside. 
I hope now we can build bridges, and the Muslim community understand that one Coptic Christian does NOT speak for all Christians, and the rest of the world understand that a handful of Muslims is NOT an entire community.

Love and Peace. 

sources:
 CNN
THE GUARDIAN

Tuesday, 8 May 2012

Ice Breaker Questions...Little Known Stuffs About Me

My fiance Stuart has started himself a blog, and in his first blog post he he answered some icebreaker questions. it was actually a really interesting blog so i thought i'd steal the idea and do it myself. you should read his blog, its very good and i'll link to it below. i'm not just saying its good by the way, it actually is. i was well shocked. not that Stuarts thick or anything, i just didnt know he had any literary skill.


What is one goal you’d like to accomplish during your lifetime?
I've my life goal has always been to write a novel and get it published. i'm currently writing a novel. i have actually written a full, 50,000 words novel many years ago, that was destroyed by someone i wont mention. So im now fulfilling my life long dream/goal of writing and, InshAllah, getting my novel published. I will update on the progress of said novel in future blogs.


 If you could visit any place in the world, where would you choose to go and why?
i have two places actually, the first and foremost is Paris, France. All my life i've loved france, the language, the people, the geography. i went once, with my school when i was 14, just for the day. this is the one and only time i've left the UK, it was for about 12 hours and i loved every single nanosecond and i've spent the many years that have followed that day, edging to go back. Paris has always my desired destination, but over the last 6 months i've really wanted to go to Egypt. i want to visit a Muslim country, to hear the Azaan in real life, see everyone rush to prayer, to be surrounded by covered women, and it being the norm rather than the minority. even though i'm not Muslim, as most of you know, i have massive respect and interest in Islam, so to experience it myself would be wonderful

Are you a morning or night person?
I'm a night person, i hate mornings as a rule. well, i hate getting up in the morning, but i love 5am-6am in spring, the fresh crisp air, the silence of traffic, the birds singing and the sun slowly waking up. and a lovely cuppa tea to complete the picture. bliss.
If you had to describe yourself using three words, it would be…
Honest, Loving, and i like to hope, funny.

Who is your favourite Author?
I have two, John Green, author of Looking for Alaska, Paper Towns and his latest book The Fault In Our Stars. The other is Richelle Mead, author of the vampire academy series and the storm queen series, both are absolutely mind blowingly awesome series of books. 

If you could have any job in the world, what would it be?
it varies. obviously and author, but in addition to that, i'd be a singer or actress. i have no singing ability, and my memory is too rubbish for acting . because there's a reasonable wage in these career choices, i'd use the many monies to go do charity/missionary work in developing countries, building/supply hospitals, provinding health and nutritional care to mothers and young children etc.


What do you most dislike to see in people?
i absolutely despise people being rude and patronising. really hate it. as with most people, if someone is rude to me, i can be rude back. i'm only rude back about 50% of the time, but because i live by my motto : 'you cant expect respect if you don't give it, speak to people how you want to be spoken to' people are not very often rude to me. i just don't give people a reason to be rude to me. so if someone is rude, i'm often so shocked, i just don't say anything. i dont see the need. a week ago, someone i wont name was extremely rude to me from the first sentence. we'd never met before, i had no idea who she was and i was absolutely gobsmacked that she spoke to me like i was naughty child. she was rude and very condesending at the same time, no mean feat, and i was so surprised i literally said nothing. but every so often, someone will be rude or condesending and i will respond in kind. heres a mini story of such an occasion:...
i was taken to a and e with severe pain from my neck down. i had a brain fluid disorder which was causing the pain. my baby's nan took me to the hospital. a doctor, who, Wallahi was called Doctor Seuss, looked straight over the top of my head and practically demanded of my babys nan : 'what is it thats wrong with her?'
my rather surprised baby's nan replied: 'i dont know, you'll have to ask her.' the doctor then proceeded to bend down, and say in the same way you would to a feverish three year old :' do you know whats the matter with you?'
i leaned forward, and in the most patronising voice i possibly could said 'yes. its called benign intracranial hypertension. do you want me to write it down for you?' she promptly stood up, looked at me like she wanted to slap me, and asked me to follow her. she then walked away as quick as she possibly could, with the baby's nan practically running me after her, my wheelchair wheels almost falling off at the unexpected speed.


What do you most love to see in a person?
a truely good heart. seeing someone do something good for stranger, even just holding a door open. one of the people i admire the most is actually someone i am privileged enough to call a friend. Colette genuinely cares for people, she has 4 beautiful daughters, who really are an absolute credit to her, they're polite, honest, intelligent and genuine young ladies, just like their mother. at a time in my life when i really needed someone, she was there, when no one else was, and alot of people were against me. in all my stuggles at that time, she was there, without my even needing to ask, even down to getting me a grant to buy my boys school uniform when i couldn't do afford to. she's now a qualified counsellor and school govenor. i never properly thanked her for everything she did, i'm quite shy in some senarios, but i hope she realises how grateful i am. 

My Fiance Stuarts blog:
http://stuzoblog.blogspot.co.uk/



Thursday, 3 May 2012

The Daily Mail …why I hate them as much as they hate me.

The daily Mail is a British tabloid newspaper, first published in 1896 by Lord Northcliffe, it is stated to be a ‘middle market tabloid newspaper’ by Wikipedia. From the beginning, the daily mail was supposedly aimed at Women, being the first newspaper of its kind, to write and produce articles especially for them. Over 50% of daily mail readers are women, the only newspaper to have a higher ratio of female readers than male in Britain. This is an extremely strange concept for me to grasp to be honest. I am in no way claiming to be a journalist, or even close. But some of the stories I’ve had the misfortune to read, are either shockingly offensive, hugely lacking in fact, or simply a ‘non story.’ As this is a long blog post and I’m sure people will not read it to the end, I’ll start with the most important story to me. Juliet Shaw was interviewed by the daily mail, under the pretence of the article being about people moving from the city to the countryside. This was only partially true. I won’t put all the details here, but I URGE you to read the story for yourself, there is a link below. It is a horrify story of a woman’s life being turned upside down, of public embarrassment and the effects a defamatory piece can have on someone’s life. Juliet was portrayed to be a single, desperate woman, uprooting herself and two children hundreds of miles away; all to find the man she so desperately craved. None of it was true. In the end she did win a case against the daily mail, after they repeatedly shot down her requests to withdraw their almost completely fraudulent article. They agreed to either apologies, OR compensate; not both. After the financial loss Juliet endured, travel, phone calls, photocopying, loss of earnings etc., she opted for the money, as I believe, any sensible woman with mouths to feed would do. As I say, I urge you to read her story, as it really is a telling tale of what the daily mail is really about. Here is an example of a non-story, ‘Withdrawal problems: Broke Octomom visits ATM... But is there any cash left in the bank?’ In a nutshell, this story is about ‘octomom’ Nadya Suleman, going to a cashpoint, without her 14 children, after declaring herself bankrupt. That’s the long and short of it. The article also depicts photographs of Nadya running away from paparazzi’s; is it any wonder her children didn’t accompany her on this trip? Octomom appears to be a favourite victim of the daily mail, from claims of child neglect, which proved to be untrue, to a headline stating: Octomom Nadya Suleman describes her youngest children as 'eight pieces of poop, when the direct quote was in actual fact: (regarding looking after 8 under 3’s) 'It's a piece of poop…eight pieces of poop, all day long. But the rewards outweigh anything negative.' Nadya had spent 20 minutes before this damning sentence saying how her children were her life, the problems she’d had in pregnancy and how she’d refused drugs to help her migraines because of the concern for her children’s health. The quote was taken entirely out of context. Much like the majority of the daily mails ‘quotes.’ They love to focus on the number of children she has, and try to give the impression that she purposely fell pregnant with the 8 babies as some sort of publicity stunt. Nadya has stated that she was given the impression that she would only get pregnant with one baby, and needed all 8 embryos for a chance of one surviving. I know there are many different opinions of her floating around, I personally believe Nadya, as she already had 6 children when she conceived the octuplets, but the fact of the matter is: no one knows for sure. Due to this fact, as newspapers are supposed to reveal fact, not opinion, I think they should either give her the benefit of the doubt, or simply not comment on the matter of if she chose to have all 8 implanted with the intention of having all the babies survive. And no matter whether you support or condone her, I think we can all agree until they can 100% undeniably prove that she purposely got herself in this situation, they should stop reporting it as fact. If there’s a way of putting a negative spin on things, the daily mail will find it. In my humble opinion, the daily mail hates anyone doing anything that isn’t ‘the norm.’ Single mothers, homosexuals, the unemployed, non-whites, Muslims, teenagers, especially teenagers of colour, they’re all viable victims for the daily mail. I am openly not a fan of the reality show ‘the only way is Essex.’ Being an ‘Essex girl’ I don’t like the way the show portrays girls from Essex, as if we’re all stupid, with fake hair, nails, lashes and tans, and use an inappropriate quantity of vowels in every sentence. That being said, a recent article about one of the cast members, Chloe Sims, really boiled my blood. The article, a link to which, along with all the other stories I’ve mentioned, is linked below. Long story short, the aforementioned Chloe has a 7 year old daughter. For her 7th birthday, Chloe took her daughter to a small Essex farm, and the daily mail has a field day. From accusing her of hoping her daughter meant health farm rather than animal farm, to being ‘dragged down to old MacDonald’s farm.’ Of course, being a young Essex mum, who cares about her looks, she couldn’t possibly WANT to take her young daughter to a farm for her birthday, she would’ve had to of been dragged kicking and screaming all the way. Obviously they had no evidence whatsoever for any of their claims, but that doesn’t have anything to do with the vile nastiness they print. It would appear that if a woman is successful; she’s a man hater, without any maternal feelings of her own. Or, if she’s taken the traditional route of staying at home to raise her children, she’s a lazy co-dependant waste, spitting on the sacrifices of suffragettes. Have a child under 25? She’s a benefit cheat, only interested in the perks and free mansions those are benefits are accustomed to. If she has children over 30 however, she’s career obsessed, only popping out a sprog to silence the ever loudening sound of her biological clock ticking away. The daily mail seems to have a consistent belief, that any woman, who has children and has had the misfortune to become separated from the children’s father, is nothing but a benefit scrounger who should be forced to work all the hours God sends as penitence for her sins, with absolutely no help from the state. They should all be forced into communes for fallen women, 7 to a room, at the edge of every town, to think very carefully about what they’ve done. Gay people are simply confused, misguided, rebelling or adults of an abusive childhood who are trying to take away the rights of the good solid right wing tax payers. If they were allowed to be married, surely the world would implode instantly. All Muslims want to introduce sharia law for all the citizens of Britain, Muslim or not, and by sharia law, the evil Muslims obviously mean all gays are to be instantly put to death, all women are to be seen and not heard and the burka will be enforced upon all females over the age of 4. Obviously, for legal reason, I am exaggerating. What I find so absolutely incredible about the daily mail, and in particular their hatred for anyone who is on benefits, therefore not paying taxes, is that of the 4th Viscount Rothermere. A direct quote from Wikipedia is ‘…He has held various positions in Associated Newspapers and was Managing Director of the Evening Standard when the sudden death of his father resulted in his becoming the controlling shareholder [2] and Chairman of Associated and of its parent Daily Mail and General Trust plc just before his 31st birthday.’ the 4th viscount, does not pay taxes. He is registered as a non-domiciled citizen in the UK. So he doesn’t have to pay a single copper coin on his rumoured £1.4 billion net worth. How anyone can be associated with any rag that promotes the hate and judgement of the poorest people in this country, solely on the fact they don’t pay taxes, when he is worth that amount and doesn’t pay anything, is absolutely beyond me. I really could go on and on, but this blog is probably the longest I’ve ever written, and I applaud you if you’ve reached this far! So I shall leave you will just a few of the nick names given to the daily mail, and the links to all sources I’ve used for this blog. I, unlike the daily mail, not only cite my sources, I don’t use ‘artistic licence’ to change them to what I want them to say….
‘Fascism with oven gloves’
‘The daily fail’
‘The daily heil’
‘The daily hate mail’
‘The daily wail’
‘The daily bile’
Octomom calling her kids pieces of poo, and a video at the bottom of octomom explaining how she conceived and the aforementioned quote:
Daily mail Wikipedia page: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daily_Mail
Jonathan Harmsworth
(4th viscount of Rothermere) net worth: http://www.forbes.com/lists/2006/10/TYUE.html

Thursday, 22 March 2012

New Video

Hope everyone is well, i've just uploaded a new video, just a quick update with me repeating myself at the end because my 8 year old was directly behind my camera distracting me.
i'm going to do a Q&A, so ask any questions you want to ask on the video comments or on my facebook. if you tweet me i probably wont see it and i dont want to miss any of your questions!


hope everyone is well, be good to each other xx

Friday, 10 February 2012

Well...stuff happens

Well things are going ok. I'm coping with life, the universe and everything.
uploading has become a fricking nightmare. For some inexplicable reason all my videos are saving in a massive format and youtube ain't happy about the situation.
It appears i can only upload in 'Crome Incognito' mode, and with an etheral cable plugged into my laptop. if thats what it takes i'll do it!
My recently uploaded video 'Gothmummi: Thoughts on bereavement (RIP the best grandad in the world)', explains a bit of my absence and what i've been feeling.
my videos will probably never be popular. I'm just not that interesting. or that good if we're being honest with ourselves. But as long as i have one subscriber, i'll keep on at it. I love making videos, well, not while i'm making them, but once the finished product is up i'm happy.
I'll be trying to upload videos more regularly now, so i hope everyone keeps watching, and commenting. comments really do mean alot to me, and i try to reply to them all.

Saturday, 21 January 2012

thoughts of bereavment

Things have changed for me. No one says anything anymore do they? When I make videos, I don’t make them for me, I make them for you. I do what I think people will watch. I have things I want to say, and I don’t in case, you my beloved viewer, get bored. I’m lying. I’m not saying what I want to say, I’m not doing what I want to do, I’m doing what I think you want me to do. It’s lying, in a sense. And we all lie, lying is not always for personal gain, but it usually is to deceive. Even if it’s for the greater good. We lie to ourselves and we lie to each other.
My granddad died on Monday at 3am. I know you shouldn’t have favourites, but we all did. Pit was OUR granddad. And he’s gone. He outlived my other granddads, I had three, and he was our favourite. In the days leading up to his death, we all kept saying: you alright? You alright mum? You alright tiff? You alright twiggy? You alright lence? And we all said? Yeah. I’m alright.
None of us are ‘alright.’ We will be, at some time, we will be alright. Right now, we’re not, none of us our but even to each other, we can’t say, no I’m not alright, my dad’s gone, my granddads gone. I feel like this feeling is never going to end, I feel like I should be crying all the time, I feel like my soul left when he took his last breath, I feel like nothing in the world will ever be the same, and I’m sorry for the time I wasted, the days gone by when I had nothing to do and didn’t go round for a visit because that time, is gone. And I can’t get it back. No. I’m not alright. But thanks for asking.
I, right now, feel like I won’t be the same again. Something has gone, and something else is in its place. I don’t know what ‘it’ is, but it’s there. I feel, alone. I’m pretty much surrounded by people, but they’re not inside my bubble. They’re there, but not. I can’t accept he’s gone, because he’s always been there. And now he isn’t. That is how I feel.
There’s going to people, who think ‘keep some shit to you!’ well. It’s my shit. I own it. And if I want to give, just a little bit, to the rest of the world. I’m going to. Don’t waste your time. Don’t spend the days, the weeks, the years, on people who mean nothing to you. Who you mean nothing to. Surround yourself, protect yourself, and make your bubble big enough to fit every person who makes you smile, on the inside. Don’t get bored, ring your mum, ring you’re Nan, ring someone else’s Nan. Don’t look back, and think: I wish I’d bothered. You’ll find the time to tidy up, to do the washing, to finish that paper. But when someone’s gone, their gone. Never waste a moment. You’ll never get it back.
Salaam alaikum. Be good to each other.

Monday, 26 December 2011

Post Christmas bloggity

Hi and salaams
It’s all over!!! Christmas day has gone and it’s back to normal life.
I had a wicked day, was knackered but it was still excellent. The kids got up at 7.30 which was pretty good considering they got up at 5.30 last year I think!
I was very lucky with my presents, I got 2 cupcake maker machines, a Disney princess bowl, dp mug, dp bath confetti, dp bag thingie I’m gonna put my hijab pins in, a dp bin, a box of wine gums, burlesque on dvd ( yes I know, I can’t help it, I love burlesque) a gothic fairy ornament, a soap and glory gift set, which I’ll be reviewing btw, lace nail sticker thingies, a Thornton’s gift voucher, panamas, and slippers, a lush gift, a betty boop calendar and diary ANNND a betty boop on a swing!!!
My mum got it for me and I love it. Every time I’m in my mums house I considering nicking it, so probably in her best interests to just buy me one too tbh.
The kids got some brilliant presents from Santa, they all got loads but oldest ones main ones were a bike and guitar! Middlest one got a digital camera, this weird ‘big hand’ thing and a ‘light strike gun’…I’m still not sure what it does. I’m guessing it lights up.
 Baby got a ‘deluxe’ light up buzz lightyear and Smokey the ridiculously expensive fire engine.
About lunchtime baby went to his dad’s and my fiancĂ©’s daughter came round. And I’ll admit, I was a little jealous. Cos she was wearing a princess Rapunzel dress. And they don’t come in my size…
my wonderful fiancĂ© cooked dinner, which wasn’t turkey cos turkey: is disgusting. We had chicken. And dinner was delicious. Honestly, I’m not just saying that cos he might watch this, it was proper nice. And I am really grateful cos without him, we wouldn’t of had a Christmas dinner, so thanks babe I love you mostly much.
Anyway that was pretty much the day, I feel asleep at about 7 I think. I was up til 6 though and got up at 8 so I think I have an excuse.
But it really was great and the kids enjoyed it loads, which was kinda the name of the game for me.
Anyway i hope everyone who celebrates had a brilliant day, i'll be filming tomorrow, so subscribe to my channel www.youtube.com/gothmummi to find out as soon as it pops up!

much love everyone x

Wednesday, 7 December 2011

blogger problems

following people on blogger is not as easy as it should be. i've gone onto peoples pages and done it from my dashboard and it still refuses to come up! WHY?! is anyone else having this problem? can anyone else even see this? am i spending all my time writing to myself?
*sigh*
i'm very frustrated. i do enjoy blogging obviously, but at the same time, i wouldn't stress about it so much if i though absolutely no one ever is going to see it.
i'm going to keep trying, and following people anyway. and pray. alot.
anyway, this is a quick update, i'm going to get some lunch and carry on watching toy story 2 with my baby, while i wait for my princess rockz review to finish uploading.
much love. xx

Sunday, 4 December 2011

upload woes and wicked cool socks

well, what a palavar! 
I filmed three videos in one day. i'd spent 3 days feeling awful in bed, and didn't know how long my luck would last, so filmed three one after the other.
the first video took about three attempts, i ran out of battery, my phone went off and i was losing the will to live. finally i filmed my hijab collection and started uploading straight away.
the second video was my underscarves and accessories video. This one, at present has said 51% uploaded for three hours. i think its lying to me to be quite honest. 1/2 my brain is saying 'refresh and start again.' the other half of my brain see's the warning flash up with 'if you navagate away from this page, you will lose your upload.' and says 'NOOOO! DON'T DO IT!'
it has til 4am to change, otherwise i'm restarting it. 
my underscarf video is possibly my most random ramble video ever, bar the one coming soon where i talk rubbish for 3 minutes. *sigh*  i do try not to talk rubbish i promise. but sometimes i lose track of where i am, or a child walks in for absolutely no reason, and i get distracted and forget where i was.

 Onto a far more exciting subject i have wicked cool socks. they are the most wicked cool comfy warmy socks ever made by anyone ever. Their linked with fue, their wool on the outside and have little blobs on the bottom to stop any slippy slidy accidents. you can fold them down, or pull them up for extra toastie warmness. heres a picture:

How excellent are they? honestly, i know your jealous but i'm here to your rescue! their from tesco and their 8 pounds. their actually 3 for 2 atm which is even better obviously. click the purple: heres the linky:
see: how good am i to you: they do international delivers too now, although its probably a bit much to but the from tesco if you live in Canada for example.
anyway thats my blog for the day. i've uploaded one video as i said, and theres another two to come. dont say i never do anything for you.
much love and kisses and warm socks love. 

Friday, 25 November 2011

Life on Youtube.

Wow. Vlogging is ALOT harder than it looks!!! All those really basic, straight through, no edit videos thats looks simple: Well, they ain't. I'm uploading my third, and probably most important video, ''Why i wear Hijab.''
I wrote out a very 'loose' script, and managed to balance it in front of me so i could remember exactly what points i wanted to make etc.
i made a comment at the beginning, that i said i would elaborate on. about 3/4 through the video, i should've made the point.
i didnt.
i forgot.
oh no...
straight through, one take on a 10 minute video and i had to start the whole thing for the sake of 45 seconds.
and just as i'm finishing up and saying goodbye, the cat climbs on me. he'd been looking at me suspiciously for the whole video, and decided to make his attack right at the end.
so everyone gets to see my open mouthed laugh as a special bonus!
i also filmed another video, another tag i wasn't tagged in. hubby to be had taken the boys out to dinner so i could film undisturbed, so i took advantage of the quiet!
i was going to add an OOTD to this blog but totally forgot to take a picture, so sorry!
i hope everyone enjoyed thanksgiving, and has a fabulous weekend!
laters xxx

Thursday, 17 November 2011

So far, not so good...

Trying to film a video while recovering from flu, not so easy. i am Admant that i'm gonna do this video tonight though, even if it kills me!
part of it is guilt, that i told sister amena that i'd do the video 'this weekend'. that was a month ago almost! I'm sure she has much more important things to worry about, but if i say i'm going to do something i feel like i should do it, i'm that kind of person.

One cheery up thing in a day of not so greatness * there's other things i wont write about* was mspraisegirl1's video, mentioning me. that was really appriciated and much loved that you would take out the time to mention your subscribers :D

so anyway, a new video should be up tomorrow, i'm going to film tonight. forgive me if its not perfect, i'm tired, its 2.25AM and i'm recovering still. 
Hope everyone is well, and i'll see you all soon. xxx